Okay. There’s a good chance you read the title and think I’m crazy. You may be right about the crazy, but I did catch your attention. So now that you’re here, I feel like I need to defend myself and my crazy.
I’m a WAHM (work at home mom) who struggles on the daily with time management and life balance. But I’m working on it. Some days I go to bed feeling like I could rule the universe because everything was awesome. It doesn’t usually take long for the universe to knock me back down, and remind me that is not the norm. So, currently I’m working on improving balance and time management in hopes of having a greater majority of those awesome days.
I’m always looking for ways to be more efficient and work smarter, not harder, in all areas of my life. After forgetting to take meat out of the freezer for the 100th time, and hearing friend after friend rave about the Instant Pot, I bought one on Black Friday. Currently, my Instant Pot is still in the box sitting in the pantry.
I know what you’re thinking. Yes, it’s March. Yes, I’ve had it for 4 months and I haven’t taken it out of the box yet. You’re back to thinking I’m crazy.
It’s not like I haven’t thought about taking it out of the box. I have. A lot. But every time I think about taking it out of the box, I remember I don’t know how to use it. Yes, I am sure it comes with instructions. I’ve also had many friends tell me how easy it is to use. I’m a smart person, and I am pretty confident in saying that I could figure it out.
Once I take it out of the box, though, I feel like it’s even more expected that I use it right away. Currently it’s packed up all nicely in the box, and if I’m not going to use it right away, then I’m going to have to find another place to store it.
I Am Not a Cook
Trust me. I’ve thought through this many, many times. I’ve gotten to this point and realized that the only way I was going to use it was if I had a recipe. Here’s a little well known fact about me: I don’t like to cook. It’s not that I can’t, although that time I burnt noodles might prove otherwise. I can cook, but I just don’t like it. However, I do want my children to eat well balanced meals. My hope was that I could provide those meals using the Instant Pot, which I was told required minimal skill and effort.
The problem was that I didn’t have any recipes. Of course, I went to Pinterest to remedy that, and found out that was a bad idea. Not because I couldn’t find recipes. I found lots of recipes. TOO MANY RECIPES. It was like I fell down a rabbit hole and was surrounded by recipes. I climbed my way up out of the rabbit hole, and then repeated this cycle many times between December and March. Each time I got very overwhelmed and gave up.
Somehow, this pot that was supposed to make my life easier was instead causing me more stress. I’m sure most people would have taken it out of the package the day it arrived, picked a recipe and used the pot. That’s not how I roll.
I like things to be perfect. Now, I know that’s crazy, because life isn’t perfect. Nothing really is. I wanted to find all the perfect recipes and make a meal plan and get all the groceries and have perfect meals for my family each night. Since I couldn’t even choose recipes, I gave up. I couldn’t do it all perfectly, so why do it at all?
A good friend reminded me today that expecting perfectionism is really my attempt to protect myself from being judged, experiencing failure, and being hurt. Hearing that was like a punch in the gut because it’s 100% true.
Leaving the Instant Pot in the box was much easier than taking it out and using it. My kids don’t expect the perfect meal plan. They don’t care where their food came from, or how it was cooked. They just want food on the table when they are hungry.
I am the only one expecting things to be perfect. Therefore, I am the only one who can remove that expectation from my life. I’m determined to get better at this in 2018 as part of my desire to find balance in my life. (For more on that, click here!)
I’m going to start a challenge in my online community, very soon, to help support me in my goal of getting things done, and not expecting perfection. If you have a goal you’d like support reaching, click here to join the community. Even if you don’t have a goal, come join us! I’d love the support!