I’m guessing this title didn’t draw you in because everything in your life always goes as planned, and you never have any plans fail. If I’m wrong, then you and I need to talk. I need tips.
My guess is that you’re probably like me…at least a little. I am diagnosed with ADD, OCD, and anxiety – it’s a fun trifecta. Basically, I need to be in control and have everything go as planned. On the flip side, I sometimes spend too much time planning, and end up doing nothing. I let fear keep me from even attempting to execute my plan. But more on that in the future…
You don’t need to be diagnosed with any of my fun trifecta to enjoy making plans. Most people I know who enjoy making plans also want their plans to go as planned. Why bother making a plan if it’s not going to work out?
Why You Should Bother Making a Plan
Have you ever heard the quote “A goal without a plan is just a wish.”? I know, it might sound a little cheesy, but it’s true. When my family and I went to Disney World last year, I didn’t just sit around doing nothing. I made plans. We needed to get to Florida from Wisconsin somehow, and teleporting wasn’t an option, so I researched flights.
Guess what? I found the most amazing flights that were super cheap, and instead of booking them right when I saw them, I decided not to get up and get my wallet. I waited. When I finally decided to book the flights they were sold out. Other people, who chose to get up and get their wallets, got those amazing flights and I had nobody to blame but myself.
Had I not spent another entire evening researching flights, we would have never left the bitter cold of Wisconsin. We would have missed out on the greatest family vacation we’ve ever had.
What To Do When Plans Fail
I could give you dozens more examples of my plans failing from just this past week alone. If you’re in my online community, and familiar with my business, you’ve seen me post multiple times this past week that I’ve had to change or cancel plans.
Life happens, y’all. I won’t lie. Sometimes it sucks…a lot. But I am a firm believer that when plans fail – because they will – it’s what you do in those moments that will define you. The choice you make in that moment can and will influence the direction you’re headed.
Failing Plans Have Varying Degrees of Impact
Some plans not working out may be a bummer, but not have a huge impact on your life. Like planning to take your kids to the park tomorrow, and waking up to rain. Yes, your kids will be bummed, and you’ll definitely be bummed (what mom doesn’t want her kids to get out energy running outside?), but you can find something else to do.
On the other end of the spectrum, some plans CAN have a huge impact on your life, when they don’t work out. My business is successful because I plan out my days, my weeks, my months. But weekly, maybe even daily, at least one of those plans doesn’t work out.
Sometimes Facebook decides it wants to mess with me. Other times, my plan to hide in my office to get work done for 6 hours straight doesn’t work because my nanny’s car died, and my 2 year old thinks hitting the buttons on my computer is really fun. (That may or may not have been my day today.) My first two months of this year can basically be described as a plan gone awry. Nothing went the way I planned. Had I given up and not come up with a Plan B, Plan C, and in some cases, a Plan Z, my business would have tanked.
Change the Plan, Not the Goal
“If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan, but not the goal.” This is something I remind myself daily. Only you can make the choice of what to do when your plan doesn’t work out. You can choose to be upset, or you can choose to make a new plan and focus on your original goal. It’s not always easy, and sometimes it just really sucks, but it’s worth it.
If you’re interested in checking out my online community, click here. You’ll be able to witness me changing plans often, and you’ll get to meet some amazingly supportive people who understand that plans change, and things happen. They are kind and often give me more grace than I give myself.
The next time your plans don’t work out, give yourself some grace, grab your drink of choice and come up with Plan B. You’ve got this.